" The 1st Assistant Engineer, a man in his 60’s, often made derogatory comments about women and told me early in the trip that “ you should know your place, and it ain’t out here. A woman’s place is in the home .” The 1st was my supervisor and the 2nd in command of the engine department, and I was afraid of him. He was creepy, made romantic passes at me and made crude and demeaning comments about me in front of other members of the engine department."
Do you think he only made those comments to her alone? Do you not think he shared his view with his shipmates? The kind of pervasive misogynistic BS is what leads to a culture where it becomes ok to push young midshipmen to drink. And it becomes ok to treat the woman as less than, because you know, she doesn’t belong out there.
And I give zero effs about when he decided to rape her. He was always going to rape her, alcohol or not.
So, given that, what can YOU do? It is a lot easier to sit here and tsk tsk the abuse of alcohol than it is to say directly to a shipmate, “Hey, we don’t say that.” or “That’s a bunch of bullshit, First”, or “We don’t need to get these guys drunk, let them be.”, or “I’m not comfortable with this.” And if your reaction to that is anything other than, “Hell yeah”, you’re part of the problem.