I sailed with the same chief for many trips. He once told me he had never met a captain that cared about the crew’s personal life as little as I did. He told me that I only care about the crew to the extent I’m looking out for the ship.
He was right, I don’t care about the crew in the sense that I want to get to know them better, simply to be friendly. But I have a professional obligation, to the ship, to stay aware of their situation. If senior officers lack sufficient awareness of crew situation they need to go.
For example, Is the bos’n still on the bow?". Did the chief mate get a chance to eat? How come the 2 A/E didn’t come to lunch, is he still in the E/R? Or say, is the second mate stressed about the weather?
These questions shouldn’t get asked because we “care” about the individuals, they should get asked because the crew’s wellbeing and the wellbeing of the ship are tightly linked.
This is why the Dancing with the Village People guy (next post) was screwed up. He was told the crew was stressed but he didn’t care. He didn’t need to care about the crew, he needed to care about the whole rig.