I would take a hard look at SUNY Maritime. As a grad student the regiment is not bad at all. You are a Day Student and able to live off campus if you wish or in dormitories. The regiment requires you to wear a uniform between 7-4 on campus or when attending any class. You have to go through a mini boot camp indoctrination with anyone else entering the regiment of cadets. You can, and probably will at some point if youre incredibly lazy, earn some sort of demerits that require you to do some extra work on the ship.
You generally do not need to attend any kind of extra activity unless it pertains to cruise Also, all three of your cruises your Day Student status will dissapear and you will be the same as your fellow indoctrination graduates. You learn the fundamentals of seamanship and do some menial labor.
In the end, you graduate with a 3rd Mate unlimited, an MS, a high starting salary, and a great alumni network. You might not find a job sailing right away, but you will have many opportunities afloat and ashore, and it will be well worth it. I don’t know any grauduates of the license program that regret it. However, there are plenty of people that didn’t go to the school or washed out of the program that are quick to criticize it and find fault, including on this forum. Learn everything you can about the industry before making your decision. Good luck.