This post links to an article by author William Langewiesche - his father Wolfgang Langewiesche wrote the book Stick and Rudder which is considered a classic. It’s worth a look even for those not interested in aviation.
It’s available on-line
Perhaps what happens when the beginner reacts wrongly in an airplane
is similar to what happened in the early days of the automobile, when a
man trying to stop in an emergency would pull back on the wheel as if he
had reins in his hands and would even yell “Whoa.” There was nothing re¬
ally wrong with his reactions, with his intentions; the only thing wrong was
the image in his head that made him see the automobile as a sort of mech¬
anized horse, to be controlled as horses are controlled. Had he clearly seen
in his mind’s eye the mechanical arrangement we take for granted now—the
clutch that can disconnect the motor, the brakes that can clamp down on
the wheels; had he clearly appreciated that the thing was a machine and
had no soul at all, not even a horse’s soul, and that thus there was no use
in speaking to it—he would then have done the right thing without diffi¬
culty. It may be that, if we could only understand the wing clearly enough,
see its working vividly enough, it would no longer seem to behave contrary
to common sense; we should then expect it to behave as it does behave. We
could then simply follow our impulses and “instincts.” Flying is done largely
with one’s imagination! If one’s images of the airplane are correct, one’s
b ehavior in the airplane will quite naturally and effortlessly also be correct.
When I was a kid I was passenger in the first snowmobile I ever saw. Bench seat with engine in the back. The old-timer that was driving slid off the trail and hit a tree. He tried to stop it by pulling back on the wheel and saying “whoa” in a calm yet firm voice, suitable for horses.