And they did none of these things!
I almost died trying to get that job so quitting not an option!! My options at the time were work on a yacht and be gone indefinitely with no rotation and crappy money or go an a ship and be stuck out there even longer than a month at a time. I applied at many many places and I was more qualified than a lot of guys I met/knew who had easier times finding jobs. That was my only door into that industry and with the schedule could build my life, save money for a future business and have the -option- !!! to be with some one OUTSIDE of maritime!! Precisely the OPPOSITE of what they were trying to force me to do!!
Why would I want to be with someone from the same fleet where I work when I know I’m in my 20’s, and I am one of the only women! People looking at me all the time trying to get in my business. Even trying to have fun with my friends in a different city close by people telling me they saw me like I had stalkers or something! If I chose to be with someone from that company wouldn’t it be safe to assume that everyone would also be trying to poison it? Why would I want to be with someone that I know anyone from my work has access to talk to??? I jumped through many many hoops to learn and get all the engineering endorsements to be an engineer!! Why would I want to compromise my image as only an engineer when I almost died trying to get that job and absolutely wanted no drama in the way of getting my job that I wanted and I didn’t want people to say anything other than I’m an engineer!
Quitting is not so easy when there are LIMITED options!!! I’m talking about livelihood here! Quit? Sounds easy for someone with more opportunities to say.
They said they didn’t care what I had to say because I wasn’t an engineer and someone that is sexually harrasing me that is over me, their words matter more because they are an engineer and I’m not so they will believe them over me for their “operations”. I thought the problem would be SOLVED once I became and engineer…however NO it wasn’t! They still acted like it was me! My first boat a WIPER named Ian Lazzarry was harassing me and being SUPER hostile! I did NOTHING to provoke it! I tried to approach the proper people on board to try to get him to leave me alone and they told the coordinator -I- was the problem!!! Once again, I did NOTHING wrong! I outranked the wiper so their excuse about rank matters more is BS, they are just sexist!
Easy to say from the a/c and not under the fires of pressure! No alarms or equipment malfunctions or creepy guys hitting on you at the same time being told you will to be fired at every turn when you did nothing wrong! How many pressures should a person have to deal with at once? Was I loosing it? Yes perhaps a little, who wouldn’t? Unless someone were truly in those shoes they would not understand what it is like to be pushed to your breaking point! We are talking about someone’s livelihood if they already chose their career so they have to choose it all the way it has to count for something! Threaten to take someone’s job and to fire them(when they did nothing wrong but say ‘I’m not here for that’) and it means their future dreams will be crushed, their phone bill won’t be paid, they won’t make their car payment and will not have a place to live!! If there are no other options besides going to live in the sea somewhere for an indefinite amount of time!
You don’t know these people. They are not nice polite or reasonable. I had already interacted with most of them on the phone or in person and they are short and hostile. All they say on the phone or in person is they “heard such and and such” even if it someone you never talked to before without even bothering to listen to your side of the story (the truth). They believe lies vehemently without questioning them. It makes me think they are either or naive or have no moral character whatsoever. I had to explain the background because they would not ever give me a chance to explain!
Good employees of long standing…once again easier to be said from the point of view of a man who is not being sexually harassed!
“ For those slagging fellow employees”… are you suggesting this was me? I worked my ass off and I fixed many things!!!
That’s part of growing up. Everyone has their phases but if you are suggesting that was me you are wrong. Before I worked on supply boats I lived overseas and had many friends, I was going out with a US Diplomat, I left him for reason that’s that are my own. I should have stayed actually he was the ONLY person that called me when I was dying in the hospital besides a female friend. That same hospital trip where I passed out three times at Chouest housing, begged someone to take me, but no one would, my phone didn’t work there, I couldn’t call 911 and when someone finally did agree they left me at a gas station! This was my first experience with eco and the people that work there!!!
When I finally did get hired and started hanging around Louisiana I made more friends. When we were in shipyard and staying in trailers they (the guys on the boat) complained that I was not hanging out with them and was leaving to go hang out with my own friends instead…I remember them questioning me and being mad that I had friends there. Guess what that’s my business! Why would I want to hang around work people all the time? Isn’t it nicer to be with the people we’re you can truly be yourself?! They then told me that I was not allowed to leave the trailer after work! And they guys could! Yup just like I was an adolescent! I do not understand how these people think they can get away with these things. Do I have the same social skills now? Probably not…so terrible to harrass and degrade someone and then say it’s their personality and not just that they are being harrassed and that there are evil jealous people in this world and then for people to believe it! Of course I stopped talking of course I became like a zombie and don’t laugh or joke like I used to. Who would be the same after that?
If you are trying to get bees which I wasn’t. How many times should a person have to say they are not there for that? It should only be once. I was very nice actually I just worked and was respectful. After having all that aggression thrown at a person for no reason other than what? I’m not there for that? After awhile people are going to stop being nice.
You are correct. However, I am a female, I am an engineer, I am Hispanic and I am a hawsepiper. I am all of those things and I am the first one. So yes what happens to me matters because I know who I am. Someone who will do those things to me will do them to another person.