[QUOTE=DeckApe;47694]Several years ago when my grandmother died, my family waited weeks until I got into port to tell me. Two years ago when my mom was told she had cancer and had a few months to live my family waited until I got into port to let me know.
Both times my family reasoned that it would be better to wait because there wasn’t anything I could do about it at sea. This cell phone/ twitter/ Facebook culture of telling each other bad news in real time may seem great until someone gets killed as this accident proves.
Better that the family notify the company that the mariner will be departing the ship upon arrival so the company can arrange a relief, but waiting until the mariner is off duty/ in-port before giving him the bad news.[/QUOTE]
Many years ago a young woman was killed in a motorcycle accident, her father was the captain on the opposite hitch on the boat I was decking. We all knew what he was walking into when we exchanged our greetings and turnovers on crew change day, he wouldn’t know until he walked in his front door. I still get chills when I think of the poor man walking in the door to find his daughter has been dead for 3 days. Even worse, his wife and family had to live through those first awful moments [I]with him[/I] all over again.
The dukboat tragedy seems cut and dried to assign blame, but it appears there were too many things going wrong too quickly coupled with distracted operators on both vessels. Very sad.