Actually, there’s a long history of case law that defines exactly discrimination and harassment, it’s not in the eyes of the beholder. If you can’t figure out how to treat your crew mates with respect you don’t belong in the industry.
“Willingness” has nothing to do with it, title 7 prevents discrimination on the basis of gender.
The dudes I work with don’t like the toxic ones either.
So the original post makes sexist comments but my attitude is the problem? 
Most of the dudes I work with are great and wouldn’t put up with someone making sexist comments about their crew mate…g Captain is another story unfortunately.
‘cajaya’ invented a new nick?
Please, No.
I don’t need anyone onboard spouting off about “toxic males” or wishing them injury. Neither does anyone else, especially not the owners or the P&I Club.
I cannot recall ever encountering that before, but of course this is just the internet, not onboard.
Fortunately, I work in a good area with quality crew. We often have women onboard. Problems with bad attitudes or bad behavior are rare. Thinking back on it, I’ve probably seen about one problem every 10 years on tugs that involved a woman. So it’s not something that I need to worry about.
Today, anyone that’s unhappy can easily find a better job. That includes me.
Bringing thoughts in from another thread, do you consider someone to be a “real mariner” if they are unhappy being sexually harassed and they chose to go on to greener pastures shoreside? Again I have far less experience than you, but every ship ive been on with women I’ve seen sexual harassment at best, with a couple instances of sexual assult being swept under the rug.
Between some combination of mathematics and anecdote, its highly unlikely you’ve only had one case onboard, you might be on some magic tug boat, but it goes unreported more often than not.
This attitude of “if you arent happy you can leave” is the general toxicity we’re talking about here. It is not making our shipmates feel welcome.
It would be better if you preferred to not have any toxic males onboard.
My thoughts exactly
I prefer not to have anyone with a toxic attitude onboard. Or anyone that is rabid about any particular ideology. Or anyone that is too negative. I try to run a happy ship.
It’s not just a job, or just an adventure, being a real mariner is a calling and we real mariners do it for more than just money. The happier the boat, the more we enjoy practicing our calling.
If someone is profoundly and persistently unhappy on a boat, they are not the right person for the boat, and it’s not the right boat for them, they need to try another.
As captain , and a human being, my primary concern is for the safety of the crew. I cannot trust or tolerate anyone that wishes injury upon any member of the crew. I don’t want that person onboard.
If the company doesn’t want to support me in that, it’s the wrong company for me, and I need to try another.