[QUOTE=c.captain;57194]This does not belong in the Professional Mariner section and frankly, I do not feel it belongs in this Forum especially because you are asking if it is ok to dump the guy just because of his chosen profession which happens to be the very one most of us here also share. This is a very sore subject for many here…have you no sensitivity lady?
I wish I knew who the fellow was so I could warn him of what you are seriously thinking of doing. Nothing like coming back from months at sea to find out his girlfriend had dumped him or worse, that his wife had run off with somebody else.
My opinion is the guy is better off without you and with a more understanding and supportive partner…[/QUOTE]
Oh c.capt, My favorite grouch on gCapt! Although it may have not been posted in the “right place” here. I don’t see why a relationship, at whatever caliber, shouldn’t be discussed.
As far as [I]breaking something off[/I] Doesn’t sound like there is a commitment to break off. How can you be in a relationship with someone that you know that little about?
And as far as the person “not writing” are you kidding me? who knows what internet access, phone, etc. he uses or has access to while he is out. Are you talking about hand-written letters? Did you ask, how or if he would like to keep in touch? If you had no idea about what he does for a living, he probably is no inclined to tell you how things are going,[I] nothing would make sense to you.[/I]
Lol, 50% of the time(?)…cracks me up, geese already throwing statistics (demands) around, that’s the way I’m taking that, And the part of " Someday he could be, at best, half a dad!!!" OMG ! I hope he wore protection, anybody who makes a projection like that needs to grow up. How depressing that must be, to think that negative. Like Doug says, he may be gone for 50% of time, but when he is home it’s for 100% of that.
I loved being gone for a few weeks and then coming home and having a few consecutive days to do things.
Go google “life of merchant marine” or something. I suppose you are very young, and not to ambitious. Posting here is a way to get instant gratification for your questions, and hardend answeres from some. I would suggest taking an interest in asking [I]him[/I] about his work, life etc. and be earnest. Then be earnest with [I]him[/I] about what you do/don’t understand.
Anyway, I would suggest being a little more resourceful, starting with him.
[B][I]Shall we move this thread to “Ask Capt. Anonymous ?” lol[/I][/B]