A couple of personal anecdotes. I am not sure where they fit into the overall subject of this thread but it has to do with interpersonal relationships aboard ship.
When I was a young 3rd I got a job on a ship where the Chief was considered a real asshole and hard to get along with. That is probably how I got the job as no one else threw in for it. I ended up getting along extremely well with him. I found the key to getting an idea across was to present it in such a way that he could claim some degree of ownership of that idea. The conversation usually started off along the lines of “Chief, what do you think of …?” [ mitigated speech] He also had very high standards and did not put up with sloppy workmanship but that is another subject.
There was an incident when I was Relief Chief that involved a small oil spill. There was a mechanical failure when the barge was blowing out their hose which caused some oil to go in the water. It didn’t help that it was raining to boot which just added to my inconvenience. After getting the situation stabilized I made the required notifications to the USCG and the company’s oil spill response contractor. When I called the captain his response was, “What are you calling me for?” I told him I figured he might want to know.
The next day I was ashore to face the music with the Head of Engineering. I assumed I would be canned. By that time he had heard back from a repair contractor he sent down to check things out. He said" I firmly believe everyone should be afforded one mistake." He then looked down at the repair contractor’s report. “This wasn’t your fault (re: oil spill) but you just had your one mistake.”